It's the fact that the parents have no higher standard than marriage for her
So is it bad that I have higher regard for my wedding day than my college graduation? Like, I’d much rather have my father walk me down the aisle than watch me receive a piece of paper.
Graduation is shared with hundreds of other people and your entire moment of walking across the stage is 10 seconds max. This ceremony was a lot more intimate and special jfc.
What you get at graduation is more than a piece of paper. Graduating is an accomplishment. Getting married is not.
I cannot stand the fact that women are more excited about dressing like a princess and fawning over a man than they are about receiving a degree. (Granted, high school graduation isn’t that big of a deal, but my law school graduation meant more to me than any silly wedding ever would.)
You’re right!!! Because everyone graduates right??? And that’s every single person’s dream! To get a college/high school degree!
Maybe not, but I find it very old fashioned for someone’s dream to be marriage. It is difficult for me to understand. Maybe I should be more open minded about it, but I am just not.
Well, it is certain that a degree definitely doesn’t guarantee open mindedness.
How is marrying a person you love fawning over them? It’s a day to express your love for your partner, no matter how you celebrate it. It’s a day to fawn all over each other.
Also, why is the assumption made, that just because someone wants to celebrate their wedding in a big way means that it is more important than a college degree? Because an 11 year old girl and her dying daddy wanted to walk down the pretend aisle? Can’t you see that “dream of walking down the aisle” can mean so much more than that? It’s not so shallow as you desperately want it to be.
That walk down the aisle symbolized every birthday celebrated, every accomplishment made, every graduation and diploma earned, every mistake made, first love, first heartbreak, wedding day, baby born, etc, that her father will miss. Let’s not forget the other family members that will not get the chance to celebrate along with the father. Don’t you think the mother would love to have her husband by her side for the journey of her daughter growing up?
This father will never get to see the real thing. He will never lift that veil and kiss his daughter’s cheek so why is the fact that he wants to do it while he can such a bad thing?
So sorry they didn’t express their love in the way you wanted them too. Maybe you should give them a call and scold them. Wave that diploma in their face and tell them how you’re such a better, more evolved person.
Maybe in 15-20 years, you can ask the woman about that time, when she was 11 and her daddy walked her down the aisle. See how she feels about it.